Tips for helping children settle into a new school

Key takeaways

• Starting a new school can be a significant change for children.
• Preparation before the first day can help ease the transition.
• Consistent routines at home can provide stability during the first few weeks.
• Extra consideration may be needed when changing schools is part of a house move.
• Most children settle over time with steady support.

How to change schools in-year

Sometimes children need to change schools outside the usual transition points, such as during the school year or between less common year groups. This is often linked to moving home and is known as an ‘in‑year’ move.

In‑year school places are applied for either directly through the school or via the local council, depending on the type of school and local arrangements. Admissions processes can vary by area, so it is helpful to check your local council’s website, which will explain where and how to apply¹.

Why starting a new school can be a big change

For many children, school is closely tied to routine, friendships and a sense of familiarity. Starting somewhere new can mean learning different rules, adapting to new expectations and building relationships from scratch.

Younger children may find the separation from their parents more noticeable when they don’t know anyone at their new school, while older children might be more aware of social dynamics and of fitting in with peers².

Changes in the environment can also be stimulating. New classrooms, larger buildings or different teaching styles may take time to adjust to. Even positive changes can feel overwhelming at first, which is why patience and understanding are important during the adjustment period.

How to prepare before the first day at a new school

With a bit of planning and reassurance, parents and carers can help ease anxieties and build confidence ahead of a school transition. The following tips offer practical ways to get ready and ensure your child feels supported from day one.

1. Visit the school in advance

Whenever possible, take advantage of open days or arrange a brief visit in advance so your child can explore classrooms, playgrounds and other important spaces within the school. Experiencing the environment beforehand can help build familiarity and ease first‑day nerves.

2. Talk through the school day

Talk through what your child can expect from a typical school day, such as when the day starts and ends, the structure of lessons, break times, lunchtime routines and any after-school activities. This can help them feel more prepared, reduce uncertainty and provide a sense of security as they approach their first day.

3. Prepare uniforms and supplies early

Getting uniforms and supplies organised ahead of time can help avoid last‑minute panic and create a more relaxed start to their first few mornings.

4. Practise routines

Practise the morning routine a few days before term begins, including setting consistent wake‑up times and following your planned travel route to school. This helps your child become familiar with the start‑of‑day rhythm and reduces surprises on the first morning.

5. Encourage questions

Create an environment where children feel comfortable asking questions and expressing any concerns about starting their new school. Let them know that it’s normal to have worries and encourage open conversations so they feel supported and understood.

How to support children emotionally when starting a new school

Starting a new school marks a milestone for children and families. As parents and carers, you can provide emotional support to help children navigate these changes with greater confidence and resilience.

Listen without rushing

Encourage your child to share their feelings openly, no matter how minor their concerns may appear. Offering a listening ear and acknowledging their emotions can provide comfort and reassurance.

Acknowledge emotions

Reassure children that feeling nervous or unsure when beginning something new is completely normal and that many people experience these feelings.

Focus on the positives gently

Gently draw attention to the exciting possibilities ahead, such as exploring new subjects or joining different clubs and activities. At the same time, reassure your child that it's ok if they don't feel enthusiastic straight away; everyone adjusts in their own time.

Build confidence gradually

Support your child in developing independence by encouraging them to take small steps, such as packing their own school bag or preparing their uniform for the following day.

Helping children settle during the first few weeks at a new school

By providing reassurance and allowing time for gradual progress, parents can help children feel secure as they adapt to their new environment, particularly during the first few weeks.

Keep routines consistent

Maintaining consistent daily routines, such as bedtimes and mealtimes, can offer a reassuring sense of routine, helping children feel secure when so many other things are changing.

Stay in touch with the school

Teachers and school staff can usually provide helpful updates and reassurance on how your child is settling in throughout the school day.

Observe changes

Feeling tired or experiencing mood changes can be common as children adjust during the first few weeks at a new school. Parents can help by offering extra patience and understanding, ensuring their child gets enough rest and watching for signs that they may need further support.

Give it time

Settling into a new school is a journey that takes time and children often adapt at their own pace.

Making new routines work at home

Establishing new routines at home can make the transition to a new school smoother for both children and parents. By creating a structured yet flexible environment, families can foster a sense of stability and predictability.

Changing schools because of a house move

When children change schools due to a house move, they face the challenge of adapting to a new classroom and an unfamiliar neighbourhood. Spending time together exploring the local area – such as visiting nearby parks, playgrounds or community facilities that may become part of their new routine – can help them develop a sense of connection with their new surroundings.

Getting to know other families in the community through school gatherings, neighbourhood events or local clubs can help foster a stronger sense of connection and belonging over time.

References:

1. https://educationhub.blog.gov.uk/2024/01/what-you-need-to-know-about-changing-schools-during-the-year/ ↩
2. https://www.mentallyhealthyschools.org.uk/mental-health-information/transitions/ ↩